Kai from 520

according to elizabeth kubler-ross,
when we are dying...
or have suffered a catastrophic loss,
we all move through five
distinct stages of grief.


we go into denial...
Because the loss is so unthinkable,
we can't imagine it's true.


we become angry
with everyone--
angry with survivors,angry
with ourselves.


Then we bargain...
We beg,we plead...
We offer everything we have.
We offer up our souls...
in exchange...for just one more day.



When the bargaining has failed and
the anger is too hard to maintain,
we fall into depression,despair,
until finally we have to accept
that we have done everything we can.


We let go.
we let go and move into acceptance.


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grief may be a thing
we all have in common...

but it looks different on everyone.
it isn't just death we have to grieve.
It's life... it's loss... it's change.

and when we wonder why it
has to suck so much sometimes,
has to hurt so bad...


the thing we gotta try to remember
is that it can turn on a dime...


that's how you stay alive.


When it hurts so much
you can't breathe,


that's how you survive...
by remembering that one day,
somehow... impossibly...


grief comes in its own time for everyone...
in its own way.

so the best we can do...
the best anyone can do...
is try for honesty.


the really crappy thing,
the very worst part of grief,is
that you can't control it.


the best we can do is try to let
ourselves feel it when it comes...
and let it go when we can.


the very worst part is that the
minute you think you're past it,
it starts all over again


and always every time.................
it takes your breath away



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there are five stages of grief.
They look different on all of
us,but there are always five...

denial...

anger...

bargaining...

depression...

acceptance...


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Grey's Anatomy S06 E01 Good Mourning
E02 Good Bye